8 VERY SATISFYING Relationship Advice

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I could make a list of traps for you not fall for but if I do, you never learn. I could also tell you what to-do and what not-to-do, again you would not learn. You would think you did and stop living, breathing maybe even loving. But listen, I am only I am because I have been who, with whom and where I have been to. My only truthful advice to you would be that. You have to live it.

Rest is time, money, memories, break-ups, salty tears, as well as hope, modernity of love, challenge to keep up with different type of people that are not up for the challenge like yourself, and maybe days to reminisce about. Me-mo…i..r. Let this be my memoir determined to share my hardcore, tough learned lessons.

Lesson 1- Don’t be scared to go for it.

Every relationship is there to teach you something. If you are about to get into a relationship that you are not sure about, go for it. If you never do, you will only regret you did not or think about the possibilities of it later on. Go for it. You can only know when you go for it. However, this is also one of the worst advice as well. To you it is the worst, to me it saves you time, both from your future regrets and blame games  for not trying it now and the time that you would otherwise have been thinking about going for it or not.

Lesson 2- Make yourself visible

We all get it. You are busy, he is, she is busy, too. In this modern world, we are all bunch of busy people walking around to go places. Make that place, your destination. Make your destination your relationship. Take a walk, train, an Uber there. If YOU do not do it, one day someone else will. Make yourself visible to them, not hidden & online.

Lesson 3- Keep yourself from smelly environments.

Alcohol smells like alcohol. Trashcans smell like trash. A shaved and showered body smells like an invitation. Alcohol may or may not invite the wrong crowd to you but newly showered, beautifully moisturized body sure will get you who you want. Watch your smell, smell your crowd.

Lesson 4- Bikini Top Knitted Windproof ski pants

Make up your mind. For good or bad, there has to be some options you choose from. “Opportunity knocks only once”, they say but do not be fool enough to think this is the time to think about your one and only opportunity. Stop overthinking about it. What if it were not? What if it were? Find your ground, stand tall, dance under the rain and don’t worry about showering when you get inside. Enjoy the rain. Your tongue can catch one or two raindrops full of opportunities for you. Take the lead and make up your mind.

Lesson 5- If you are contemplating your own relationship, your friends will do, too.

Stop telling them everything. Listen to yourself. Listen to your heart. Then listen to your partner’s. Who knows maybe if you could keep your mouth shut for some time, your hearts could talk. Understand not everyone likes to talk and communicate like you. Stop complaining about your relationship to your friends all the time. Do it once in awhile. If you do it all the time what is the point of being in this relationship with your significant other anyways? You can’t even talk to your partner about anything. Don’t be a coward. Talk to your partner for better results. Keep friends out of this. Keep your friends close, but your partner closer.


Lesson 6- Amplify for a hopeful relationship

Sometimes we get hopeless if one little thing goes wrong when in a relationship. I was talking to my friend the other day and he told me that he never texted his date back again because he saw dirt in her one nail. :S I know! But hey he had no hopes from the beginning so he chose to go silent on that girl. HOWEVER, if you had hope in the beginning and you are still hoping that it HAS THE POTENTIAL to get better, then stop finding excuses to shut your partner up. Listen. Put their volume a little more higher than before. Hear it, hope to find a solution for it. Amplify the happiness along with the hopeful future that he or she might be able to give you someday. 

Lesson 7- Seven is HEAVEN! 

You either do ALL that there is to do to carry this relationship from one level to another or don’t, there is a HIGHER power above us all who/what knows everything better than you. Therefore, if after all the other six steps your relationship still sucks, take a deep breath and well, hope for the better. That is not to say your next one will be better. In fact, I can guarantee you that after dating someone for a long LONG time, the next one who comes is never enough. Yes, marvelous in the beginning yet will never beat your ex! (Unless you ex used to beat you or harm you in anyway. Because if you have to leave a relationship because of domestic violation and such, run as fast as you can. Do NOT look back.) But.. If that was not the case… then remember, the new person comes with his/ her own baggage. 

Lesson 8- Relationships ATE me alive ! 

Good news: You are ALIVE! Bad news: You worry too much. Whether you are in a relationship or not, your focus determines your future. Focus on yourself. As one of my really awesome friend told me yesterday, ” You will be the one to see yourself in the mirror everyday. We need to take care of ourselves first. “

  • Written by a relationship expert: A Leafy

This Christmas You Stole My Package, but the very Next Day You Gave It to Someone else

Brooklyn Bridge <3
I took this pic a long long time ago.

Christmas is a time for family gatherings. It is all about giving and receiving right? It is a time to cherish the loved ones as well as an excellent excuse to remember the religious backgrounds of it. Lastly, it is a time for online shoppers to use their credit cards or debits to go beyond their highest credit lines to the lowest balance possible. At the end of it all, we are all trying to give back.

So far so good. Let me take a deep breath and keep my calm… I wish it was all that sunshine and rainbow sandwiches. Jesus would have been disappointed in humanity. There is a song by WHAM we are all familiar with. It goes ” Last Christmas I gave you my heart, but the next day you gave it away. “ This song is from the 80s for sure. Moreover, it was written to a loved one who cheated I believe but check it for yourself to make sure. Now after decades, I’d like to dedicate this song to the people who are encouraged enough to steal other people’s packages to give them away the next day.

It is a new age in which everyone works their a.. off to make money so that they can shop online. Be honest. Mostly, money is made this way or another and goes out the window to online shopping due to lack of time for shopping, especially in November and December. Tell me who has the time to go shopping when you have got to work. Occasional shoppers are an exception to this of course. I talked to some parents who are glad to be able to shop for their kids online since it was always hard for them to waltz around the kids sections for hours. (The expression “waltz” was taken from Gilmore Girls.)  

Now that the parents are happy, kids are happier, adults are grateful, companies are on their best profit margins on e-commerce, Christmas being around the corner, something very infuriating had to have taken a place to balance out all of course. Not everything can go right all at the same time. We owe this to our heedless package thieves. Those package thieves had to do this to people to ruin their Christmas plans. Hey, at the end of the day we might have gotten upset if everything went right, right? Standing ovation!

I have gotten very irritated by this event when it had happened to me. Moreover, I requested to check the cameras that these package thieves had had the nerves to break. How thoughtful of them to take cautions! Now, thankfully our package thieves started stealing early this Christmas, which gave us enough time to just go to stores and buy presents for our loved ones. I have stopped using my Amazon Prime due to their “thoughtful” actions for the longest time in 3 years. By the way, I keep seeing how they are very obnoxious of the packages that come from Sephora. They might not like all that make up and glitter. I am sure they were glad to see my package with shower curtains, shower head, and door knobs- don’t ask why. Eventually, they could build a house if everyone ordered things as such. How merciless of ladies to order make up for our package thieves. Now what are they going to steal? Awww poor things….

To be honest with you, when I heard that they stole this old lady’s medical stuff from her doorsteps I got so mad that I rushed to our building’s department for complaints. They said they could not do anything since the cameras were down. After a little argument with them, I came home to cry my heart out for the humanity. It was just very overwhelming to see how on one hand, I could not even touch someone else’s package to check the name on it and on the other hand people owned someone else’s things. I have accepted the fact that we work for big corporations long long time ago, but no one can tell me to accept that I work for thieves. What happened to each on his own? What happened to our morals? Virtue? Anyone? Bells? Lighbulb? Anything?

Extra: There is a new invention that is a trap for package thieves. It is not security cameras, but glitters. Read more about it here. This guy made my day. https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2018/12/18/porch-pirates-stole-package-an-engineer-so-he-created-trap-using-glitter-fart-spray/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.b85f92d3e432 

To conclude, I am sure we will eventually find other ways to deal with this problem; Let it be with glitters, technology or maybe education. Wishing you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. Hopefully, next year around this time I will have been making fun of this all. A little enthusiasm never hurt anyone. Fingers crossed, X-mas lights on, tree looking great, cookies are made on the table, waiting for Santa to steal them, too. 🙂