Meet Me in the Middle

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because I respect you as you respect me, too

Many people believe in things that do not make any sense, such as sleeping with or without their socks on. Same fruitful event yet different approaches make it seem like a legitimate interdimensional difference in one’s world. How we sleep affects the way we wake I guess, or the dreams we have. Not long ago, I have figured everyone had a different approach to things, not only sleep but things in general. You might tend to think waking up early is the best way to approach to life yet your neighbor might get more things done than you do even when he or she wakes up later than you.

It is sometimes a given fact that a person who gets done more ends the day well, hence sleep well. However, here you get yet another slap on your face by another thought-provoking opposite idea, what if someone who gets more things done in a day who also wakes up late – that is very not the type of thing you can accept- fails to finish all the chorus with couple of mistakes here and there? Now we have three questions in total so far.

1- Who gets up early?
2- Who gets more things done regardless of what time the parties wake up?
3- Who gets more things done better than the other regardless of what time the other party wakes up and how many things they get done?

I hope you can see how everyone can approach this differently. When one can confidently think waking up the earliest is the most important, another can get all the work faster. How about the third one who gets everything done peeerfectly? Each on his own, for sure. This is absolutely not an article to discuss which one is the most important. This is an article to raise at least a little bit of an awareness about how people differ among their own natures. We cannot expect everyone to think the same because no one is the same. No one, absolutely no one had the same childhood, neither has everyone grown up in the same family or have been to same places at the same time. Not everyone will be exactly the same person who has learned and applied the same values, love, approach and respect to the same things as you do. Please, understand this. Write it in your soul. Tattoo it on your skin. If we all cared about the same exact things as everyone else around us, we would all be robots. You are not a robot, just like how your neighbors are not robots, or your co-workers, friends, family members, classmates are not robots. We might be getting more robotic, true but we still have our own personal past memories where the line has been drawn in certain things and acts.

Sure we would love to see someone who cares the about the environment as much as you do, yet the truth is that is all a fantasy. Think about it, no one has the same tongue. The shapes and all are all different. You might taste the same orange but what difference does it make if you are both tasting that orange differently? Are you on the same page? Never 100%. Some people see the dress in gold, some pink, some blue. Can you change that? No. You love animals to a point where you would die to save one animal while some people hate those same animals that you care so deeply for. I believe that is where the term, ethics can help us. Ethics can help us in a way to get along with each other in a society with some certain basic laws. If your heart is broken by someone who does not care about your relationship as much as you did, you cannot blame that person one hundred percent. You do not know what kind of a devastating last break up that person had gone through. You do not even know that person’s strengths and weaknesses that are never truly shown. Relationships, partnerships, family relations, they are all the same.

Take a look at psychology. Everyone faces their past to fix their future mistakes or at least to minimize them. Take a look at astrology. If your Saturn is in your fourth house and meets Uranus at some certain angle where it is also affected by the angle of Mars in YOUR chart, you get a divorce. Don’t compare yourself to your friends. Your chart is different, just like your past, so will be your future.
Take a look at someone’s educational background, lost pets, daily routines, daily dosage of good new and bad news they get or do not get. You can’t be them. They cannot understand you fully. You are you, they are them. When I lost my job one rainy day, after crying for hours over it, I took the train to go back home to do some more crying and thinking. There were all these dancers on the same cart as mine who were performorming for everyone there to collect money. As much as I wanted to appreciate their happy vibes, I was just not on the same level with them. I did not have to be in any way. One of them got very pissed at me for not watching them only to yell at me more, put me down more, curse at my face. He almost hit me for not watching them. I on the other hand had had so much for that day, I could not participate in his freak show aggression against me in public. I reminded myself over and over again, he did not just get fired from his one and only job, I did. Look, he did not even ask me if I was having a good day. All he expected from me was for me to watch him perform his dance and spare change. What he did not realize was that I could bet he had more money than me at the time. We were different. I did not expect him to understand me, so I let it go. He wanted so desperately for me to understand him, so he stuck his nose in my life. He got angry, I had zero emotions for his overreacting act of playing it cool in public.

Here, it is not about accepting and forgiving a person, no. Because if and as you do that, you give a piece of yourself, your thoughts, your attention and time to that particular person. Instead, turn to yourself to understand yourself. If the other person wants to understand you as well, then all the doors of the universal love opens up. The force becomes the love and mutual understanding. Only then, only by telling and listening both parties can see how different they are from each other. It does not matter what color of socks you sleep in as long as you are responsible enough to get what you need to get done for the day. I believe by taking responsibility for your own actions, respecting the others, there is no mountain you cannot hike. Every action has a reaction. Listen to your words, read your own chart, others will follow with their own. Imagine a world where everyone meets in the middle. 🙂

Intoxicated World against The Heart Chakra

Last week, I came across a life changing message bombarded from everywhere, the heart chakra. From people telling me to listen to my heart to being given a tarot card from the most random person about the heart chakra to being told that gratitude’s wonderful return to the heart, and of course the question that is, ” What are you going to do on Valentine’s Day?”. You know forgive and love everyone type of talks were everywhere I unintentionally had been to.

To take away from it all I went to see a movie alone on Feb 8th, Friday. The plan was that it was going to be a scary movie where I would not have to hear the same conversation topic that was popular to bring up when with me, heart and chakras. As I was watching the movie, a friend showed up with some extra buttered popcorn so that I knew that I was loved. Oh, and the movie was okay yet to your surprise, it was about the love of this psychopath’s love for women’s hands. Yes, guess which movie. Love is in the air.-

They say, “Home is where your heart is.” Well… As a first glimpse of it all, I took the hardest way out to challenge myself. First step was to watch videos of course, then I moved on to talking to people who are more knowledgeable than me in this area- chakras, heart, loving, receiving, giving, spreading the love etc. I believe my heart is different than theirs, or as they told me,” there is no open doors left.” Luckily though, I could open the doors wide or cracked, if I chose to. Being the person that I am, I thought why not let all the keys of my heart loosen up a bit so some breeze of love might come right at it to knock, or simply just walk in. Just FYI, this is not a romantic love but as they point out,”the love of all. One love.”

Things took a quick left turn since I had decided to do everything to open my heart or call it the heart chakra. I lost one of the most valuable things to me in this life, our necklace that we inherit from one generation to another. Then, while trying to show love and gratitude to other people, I bought food for the people around me to make their days, they were all on a diet. I could hear myself talk not just to talk, but give motivation and inspiration to the ones around me. I tried to inspire, people kept repeating, ” I know.”

Then all of a sudden, a light bulb appeared on my head- not heart. In order to show love, I thought, what can possible be better than fresh smells of flowers, in which thought my actions followed. I made a big purchase to pamper someone I truly adore. I ordered a big bouquet of flower and shared a quote from that person’s favorite author. Epic another failure.

The company was a fraud. Flowers and the quote have never been delivered to this very day. Worse is, she really needed them while crying her heart out alone at home. I really just wanted her to be happy, feel the love around and receive yet more than that took place. Now my money is gone out the window, the customer service representatives are making me lose my mind, that person lost on being a little happier with the surprise of flowers, and as I am typing this with my heater in my place not working for the first time in a weather like this- a New York kind. Maybe if I look at my heater long enough, it would possibly work? Maybe if I open my heart chakra wide enough, the flowers would be delivered. Better yet, why am I trying so hard to make it all right? Is this something my heart wants me to do? I don’t feel so.

I do not personally understand why opening a heart chakra would make a person this miserable. Can it be that my heart is a dark and humid place where there can only be monsters and ghost stories take place? Could it be maybe that it is so used to my worst choices of not showing love and care that as soon as it’s opened, it has gained its power to its hysterical form from a pretentious high amount of sadness? Or, another theory would be that even though I work on my heart chakra, other people are not. The evil hearts are eating my little one? Because as they say, ” Big fish eats the small ones.”

I mean how much gratitude can our hearts handle if it all comes back to it in a form of rotten, broken or not delivered flowers or a lost very valuable jewelry? Are we really giving or giving up on love?

This Christmas You Stole My Package, but the very Next Day You Gave It to Someone else

Brooklyn Bridge <3
I took this pic a long long time ago.

Christmas is a time for family gatherings. It is all about giving and receiving right? It is a time to cherish the loved ones as well as an excellent excuse to remember the religious backgrounds of it. Lastly, it is a time for online shoppers to use their credit cards or debits to go beyond their highest credit lines to the lowest balance possible. At the end of it all, we are all trying to give back.

So far so good. Let me take a deep breath and keep my calm… I wish it was all that sunshine and rainbow sandwiches. Jesus would have been disappointed in humanity. There is a song by WHAM we are all familiar with. It goes ” Last Christmas I gave you my heart, but the next day you gave it away. “ This song is from the 80s for sure. Moreover, it was written to a loved one who cheated I believe but check it for yourself to make sure. Now after decades, I’d like to dedicate this song to the people who are encouraged enough to steal other people’s packages to give them away the next day.

It is a new age in which everyone works their a.. off to make money so that they can shop online. Be honest. Mostly, money is made this way or another and goes out the window to online shopping due to lack of time for shopping, especially in November and December. Tell me who has the time to go shopping when you have got to work. Occasional shoppers are an exception to this of course. I talked to some parents who are glad to be able to shop for their kids online since it was always hard for them to waltz around the kids sections for hours. (The expression “waltz” was taken from Gilmore Girls.)  

Now that the parents are happy, kids are happier, adults are grateful, companies are on their best profit margins on e-commerce, Christmas being around the corner, something very infuriating had to have taken a place to balance out all of course. Not everything can go right all at the same time. We owe this to our heedless package thieves. Those package thieves had to do this to people to ruin their Christmas plans. Hey, at the end of the day we might have gotten upset if everything went right, right? Standing ovation!

I have gotten very irritated by this event when it had happened to me. Moreover, I requested to check the cameras that these package thieves had had the nerves to break. How thoughtful of them to take cautions! Now, thankfully our package thieves started stealing early this Christmas, which gave us enough time to just go to stores and buy presents for our loved ones. I have stopped using my Amazon Prime due to their “thoughtful” actions for the longest time in 3 years. By the way, I keep seeing how they are very obnoxious of the packages that come from Sephora. They might not like all that make up and glitter. I am sure they were glad to see my package with shower curtains, shower head, and door knobs- don’t ask why. Eventually, they could build a house if everyone ordered things as such. How merciless of ladies to order make up for our package thieves. Now what are they going to steal? Awww poor things….


To be honest with you, when I heard that they stole this old lady’s medical stuff from her doorsteps I got so mad that I rushed to our building’s department for complaints. They said they could not do anything since the cameras were down. After a little argument with them, I came home to cry my heart out for the humanity. It was just very overwhelming to see how on one hand, I could not even touch someone else’s package to check the name on it and on the other hand people owned someone else’s things. I have accepted the fact that we work for big corporations long long time ago, but no one can tell me to accept that I work for thieves. What happened to each on his own? What happened to our morals? Virtue? Anyone? Bells? Lighbulb? Anything?

Extra: There is a new invention that is a trap for package thieves. It is not security cameras, but glitters. Read more about it here. This guy made my day. https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2018/12/18/porch-pirates-stole-package-an-engineer-so-he-created-trap-using-glitter-fart-spray/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.b85f92d3e432 

To conclude, I am sure we will eventually find other ways to deal with this problem; Let it be with glitters, technology or maybe education. Wishing you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. Hopefully, next year around this time I will have been making fun of this all. A little enthusiasm never hurt anyone. Fingers crossed, X-mas lights on, tree looking great, cookies are made on the table, waiting for Santa to steal them, too. 🙂